Daily Nugget of Gold 702
That Pit in Your Stomach
You know the feeling, that sudden pit in your stomach you get when you have some bad news or when someone says something that hurts your feelings. Do you like how that feels? No? Then we should talk! This feeling you get is a tremendous blessing, but only if you see it that way. Every time you get this feeling it’s telling you that there is something more you should work on within yourself so that you can reach your full potential. That experience, that sinking feeling is actually an alert to “Stinkin’ Thinkin” as Zig Ziglar calls it. When you get that feeling, understand that the main goal you now have for the short term is to resolve it.
We said “resolve it” for good reason. Suppression of the emotions related to this feeling never does anything positive for you. Suppressed emotions always find another route of expression, whether it’s through disease, anger over trivial matters, withdrawal, avoidance, or some other thing- suppression does more harm than good. Resolving a feeling is different. Resolving means that we go to work on why it is we felt that way in the first place. The most common problem as far as hurt feelings go is that we tend to immediately employ tunnel vision and we forget completely about everything else and everyone else that we’re happy and grateful for in our lives. We also forget about what all those people in our lives feel about us, all the love and attachment they have.
Suppose your boss called you into their office and said to you today, “The company is cutting back and since you have the lowest seniority, we’ll have to let you go.” There comes that old familiar feeling in the pit of your stomach. How could you make it go away? Say to yourself, “That’s great news” and then immediately think of everything you can that would be great about this. Perhaps you really didn’t like this particular job, or maybe you felt you could earn more elsewhere? This just might be that good swift kick in the butt you needed to find it!
Will you enjoy severance benefits or unemployment compensation while you find something else? This could ease the pain and help you as you find the job you really want. Maybe you’ve always to work from home, this would be a great time to start! Say to yourself, “There’s always a solution” and “I have so much to offer, there’s no way I’ll stay idle”. List 30 things about this news which are good news for yourself and your family. Take the time to sit down and write it out. When you finish this list, sit down and re-read it again any time you begin feeling blue about the situation.
“Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit” Napoleon Hill said. That’s actually not the full truth, however. There are hundreds of seeds, not just one. The only limits are the ones you place on yourself. Want thousands of seeds? Create them! That pit in your stomach is your signal to get to work in freeing yourself of it so you can once again see things from the perspective of an optimistic person with a relentlessly positive mental attitude. Retrain your focus on the opportunities and don’t cry over spilt milk. Focus your attention on what is going right in your life and give thanks for it. Praise that pit in your stomach as the signal you needed to begin working on improving your outlook and thus improving yourself, and thus, your life.
Question of the Day to Ask Ourselves
“What can I do when I feel bad to feel good again as soon as possible?
Copyright 2012 Kevin Littleton, all rights reserved.