Daily Nugget of Gold 769
Emergence of the New You
If you become serious about making the changes in your life that you know you want to make you may want to think through what this will mean. First of all, will it be easy to change? We think you already know the answer to that one. Most people never make meaningful, long-lasting changes in their lives because it’s painful at first. Pain? Where does this pain come from?
You are who you are right now because of a slow process that not only have you come be comfortable with but also everyone around you are comfortable with as well. This is one reason why it’s easier to launch long lasting changes when you are thrust into a new situation- going through a divorce, getting a new job, attending school again, or moving to a new area to name a few. Why is this the case? It’s that way because there are far less “subtle agreements” about the way you are, with who you are, with those folks around you.
When we set out on a new course in our lives, we encounter not only opposition to that new course within ourselves, but we run into all sorts of friction with those people we are close to. People aren’t so much trying to sabotage your success as to cling onto the old you, faulty as you may have been. One reason is this: Most people don’t want to be similarly challenged in their own lives to grow and you doing that may just shake their own “old reality” in a way that makes it uncomfortable for them to stay planted in their old habits.
Nowhere do we feel this as strongly as with the groups of people we are most closely aligned with right now, and for most of us that’s our own family or spouse. The biggest complaint we hear from people trying to change is the inability to get their spouse or significant other on board. Do you need to solve this one yourself? What you want to do is to spend some time studying sales techniques because through that you can probably have the best chance of selling your ideas to the reluctant person. You can start right now by talking about how great it will be for them to have whatever it is that they want. You know them well enough to know what those things are, and all you really need to do to get the fire in the belly going is to concentrate on their “hot buttons”- those things you get the greatest emotional responses from when you talk to them about whatever is most most important to them.
While we’ve painted a picture of some pain here, understand that the pain will be worth the treasure. The riches you’ll find in yourself will exceed what your wildest imagination has envisioned them to be so there is a lot of good reason for you to be excited and happy right now, you are on your way. That’s saying something, 95% of the people out there are not. Make this happen, you are SO worth the effort!
Question of the Day to Ask Ourselves
“Am I going to let a little resistance stop me?”