Daily Nugget of Gold 865
“You cannot expect to achieve new goals or move beyond your present circumstances unless you change.” – Les Brown
So many of us seek to extract what we want from the world, everything we focus on seems to be outside of us in order to get the results we want. Few of us put our attention and energy for achieving our goals into being a person worthy of the higher rewards. A singer who spent more time trying to figure out tricks and schemes on how they could sell more recordings without spending much time perfecting their singing voice and style would be chasing pennies while allowing dollars to fly away, wouldn’t they?
“The unexamined life is not worth living.” – Socrates
We want to take a careful look within ourselves. Part of the act of growth ought to be removing unwanted, useless, and negative habits especially in the area of what we think about others. A negative focus on other people is a hotbed for destruction in our own lives. Every time we look at another and see ourselves as better than them, we are feeding a monster which will ultimately consume our own hopes and dreams. That’s because the act of emotional observation creates whatever is being observed within us. What bad habits in regards to your thinking about others can you do without?
How do we make measurable changes in eliminating the bad habits we really need to change in order to get where we want to go? That’s not as hard as you might think. Our thought habits are built little by little until they have grown deep roots. We got into the bad habits by adding little bits and pieces of them day by day. That’s exactly the plan we want to follow to change them. We want to set things up which begin changing what we do a little at a time.
We can set a goal of helping other people feel more valuable, feeling good about themselves- say- 5 times today. We can find some simple system to track whether or not we are doing it. Check marks on a pocket notebook page, transferring a penny from one pocket to another, or each time we chew a piece of gum or put a mint into our mouth. Develop a system that works for you and then stick to it. If you have kids, ask at the dinner table, “What did you say to someone else that was encouraging to them today?” (That, by the way, has a sales technique called an “assumptive close” loaded into the question- you assume they did) Find ways of adding more love, more joy, and more happiness to other people’s lives and you will ultimately find these things yourself.
Question of the Day to Ask Ourselves
“What can I say today to cheer up someone else?”
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