“What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind.” – Buddha
Daily Nugget of Gold 1068
The Elephant in the Room
Most of the time when we use this rather dramatic illustration, we’re talking about something we are ignoring as we go about our business- something obvious, yet- something no one is really paying any attention to. Your author here has a very large set of keys he uses and on this multi-ringed set are two fairly large “Key Fobs” as well. There’s a pretty hefty brass metal tag on them, too. We’re fond of starting out one of our mentoring sessions by tossing them onto the table in front of us and then asking our mentee if they’ve ever done this with their keys, their cellphone, or their wallet: “I can’t find my keys, I can’t find my keys!”
When we’d do this our spouse would get a puzzled look on her face and she’d exclaim, “They’re RIGHT HERE! How could you NOT see them?” It’s happened to you, hasn’t it? What’s going on here? This is one of the most powerful cases we can make for why we have to carefully monitor our self-talk if we ever want to get ahead in life. What happened is we hallucinated that they were not there. What? Yes, it’s true, our subconscious mind is so powerful it can easily play this trick on us if we aren’t careful. If it never happened to you, then you might doubt us on this, but it has, hasn’t it?
What happened is we gave our deeper mind the wrong command. We said, “I can’t find my…(whatever) and it being the dutiful servant that it is, made sure we could not. Because we were unaware of this cruel joke being played on us, we used to be a fanatic about hanging our keys on a hook. We were filled with fear that if we deviated from that, our keys would fall into an abyss like they had so many times before. We never bother with this anymore, we don’t need to. If our keys or whatever are misplaced, within a few moments we have them back. How did we do that? It’s simple, we learned to give our subconscious mind the right command instead.
This is an amusing story, for sure. We’ve all done it. Let’s spend a few sessions together examining what this important lesson is trying to tell us about how we talk to ourselves. Much of what we’ll discuss you’ll already be familiar with, and while you might not yet be employing the few simple tricks we’ll share with how to never have this embarrassing thing happen anymore- the implications for our lives as we begin making these tiny changes are huge. So what did we say to never having to worry about where we’ve placed our keys? Next time, this will be revealed to you. Until then, listen to you. Really, really hear what you are saying when you talk to yourself.
Question of the Day to Ask Ourselves
“Am I my best friend or my worst enemy when I speak to myself?”
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