“The mind is the limit. As long as the mind can envision the fact that you can do something, you can do it, as long as you really believe 100 percent.” – Arnold Schwarzenegger
Daily Nugget of Gold 1127
Finding a Mate
When we set about the task of finding a perfect match for us, it’s serious business! We want to be careful, for we will make huge investments of time and energy in attempting to choose the right one, and there are so many things we want to watch out for. While we often use the “follow your heart” method in the sorting of “applicants” for the job, we try and be objective as well, and use at least some amount of logic in the process. We have evolved mating rituals to help us measure up the other person, and these aren’t unlike the ones found in the animal kingdom, are they? Dances, sharing meals together, putting on our best or what we consider to be our most attractive attire all play a role.
Okay, we’ve covered the obvious here, let’s get down to the mental aspect of this so that the mate we eventually end up with is the right one. Before we do any of the activities outlined in the first paragraph- indeed before we call anyone up, hold hands, or kiss- we want to imagine for ourselves that perfect person for us. What would that person look like? Are they a high school graduate or more educated than that? What sort of work do we imagine they’d do? How should they treat you? Do you wish to find someone trustworthy? These are all things to build in this vision. Why not write down all of the qualities you desire in a mate? Try and keep it positive- if you find a negative on the list- turn it into a positive. “Won’t cheat” should read “Is faithful”, for example.
Now, concentrate on your list. It ought to contain at least 30 items if you did the job thoroughly, and don’t worry about being too specific. That actually works in your favor. The person you find with this process will be far more likely to meet almost everything on your list, and you want to take care of the major points you desire most in a person. Read your list daily, preferably just before bed or any time you can quiet you mind. What you are doing is handing the task of finding this person to your subconscious mind. You deeper mind will respond in doing almost all of the sorting out for you. It will pull into your world your perfect match and make it so much easier to declare “This is the one” when you find them.
Most folks can’t be bothered with this, we know. Most relationships end up in break ups, and a great deal of marriages end in divorce. That might seem to underscore the point that we really want to be careful and choose wisely. Yes, we should follow our heart, but allowing our heart to review what we are seeking beforehand is probably a good idea. What do you think?
Question of the Day to Ask Ourselves
“What can I do to make sure I choose wisely?”
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