“Change is inevitable — except from a vending machine.” – Robert C. Gallagher
Daily Nugget of Gold 1181
Why Self-Examination is Crucial
It’s probably safe to say that we desire positive change within ourselves. Wanting it and making it happen are two very different things, however- wouldn’t you agree? Most of us, if we are honest with ourselves, are fraught with bad habits. We eat too much, we watch too much TV, we spend an inordinate amount of time on our cell phone, we’re grumpy too often and on and on. One sure way to have us cling to our bad habits, however, is to have someone else fault us for them. We can find all sorts of ways to excuse what we do. We are able to produce a list of “reasons” for any of them whenever we are challenged by another to change.
Take smoking, for example: “I smoke to calm my nerves.” or “I’ll gain weight if I stop smoking” or possibly, “I can’t sleep unless I have a cigarette.” It’s not that smokers are unique in coming up with reasons (excuses) as to why they engage in their habit, we all do that.
There’s a quote we like which is sometimes attributed to Dale Carnegie because he included it in his famous book, How to Win Friends and Influence People,which is, “A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still”. We’re not sure of the original source, but the wisdom it contains is spot-on. The thing most people tend to do when criticized is to circle the wagons and fend off their attackers. In the process of doing that, they become more convinced than ever of the logic of their possibly erroneous conclusions.
We paint a very bleak picture about having change happen if someone outside of ourselves is trying to direct it, don’t we? It would be a good thing to remember when we try and change someone else, wouldn’t it? What about the changes we want to make within ourselves? Would it be fair to say that unless we see the need to change, we won’t? This is where self-examination comes in. We want to look at each of our habits and ask a simple question: Does this habit take me closer to my goals or further away? Maybe we can ask, “If I was going to change this habit, how would I go about it?” This form of a less forceful approach doesn’t put us on the defensive so much. Let’s make the changes we want to make happen, starting today, shall we?
Question of the Day to Ask Ourselves
“What changes within me do I desire most?”
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