“Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.” – Joel Osteen
Daily Nugget of Gold 1382
Remove What’s Not Helpful
There are two things we can do to insure our mental garden has less weeds, one is to aggressively go after the mental weeds and destroy them so that they cannot take over our garden, and the other helpful approach in all of this is to plant so many positive thoughts in the fertile soil of our minds that the weeds don’t have much space to grow. We want to caution our readers that this isn’t an either/or proposition. We really need to be working on both fronts.
We’re going to finish this discussion today with a laundry list of what else to look out for besides overall negativity and fear, which we devoted a page each to. We want to be on the lookout for any of these and probably quite a few others you may think of that we forgot.
Envy, jealousy, anger, hate, are some of the nasty mental weeds we want to get rid of. For each one, it’s helpful to see why, but this isn’t an easy quest. We tend to want to defend to some extent anything we find ourselves practicing. “What? In my garden, envy is a good thing, it makes me strive harder.”, for instance. This is where a practice of reading positive material, watching or listening to empowering ideas daily will help. We also need to think about what we read, see, and hear.
Judging, comparing, and gossip are all things we shouldn’t tolerate in our domain. Once again, we want to kill off these things, not live with them to a lesser extent. If we need to deride another in order for us to feel or look good, then we aren’t focused on our positive attributes, but rather on taking the “easy way out” and flinging mud. The trouble with flinging mud is that as we do it, we get filthy ourselves.
Self-deprecation, self-pity, and self-loathing are all harmful too. We don’t want to entertain the idea that our mental garden can’t be great or won’t ever be worthwhile.
Skeptical, untrusting, suspicious thoughts are often based on fear. What kind of fear? Fear of change, fear of success (not knowing how we’d handle it), fear of failure- or more specifically, getting mocked for failing.
We’d not be surprised a bit if you thought of some big ones we forgot to include. We want to be mindful of the moods we’re in and the emotions we are entertaining behind those moods and make sure that what we experience there are things which will help us grow, and not at the expense of anyone else. We want to decide that these mental weeds are so insidious and nasty that they will rob us of everything good we can do, have, or be if we leave them alone. Killing mental weeds may not sound like a positive thing, but we want the most beautiful, bountiful, and awe-inspiring mental garden we can get. If we do that, we will free ourselves creatively to grow to great heights.
Question of the Day to Ask Ourselves
“What are my biggest mental challenges and what can I do to eradicate them starting right now?”
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