“The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions – the little, soon forgotten charities of a kiss or a smile, a kind look or heartfelt compliment.” – Samuel Taylor Coleridge
Daily Nugget of Gold 1392
Gracefully Accept It
It’s caught our attention that there is something which diminishes our self worth and at the very same moment, makes us look bad and insults people all at the same time. What could cause such damage and destruction? It’s our habit of turning down compliments and gifts. Let’s look at the dynamics of some examples to see how this might go.
Suppose someone you haven’t seen in a while says to you that you haven’t aged a bit since they saw you last, or that your hair looks pretty, or that you’re dressed sharp. Do you say things like, “I wish!” or, “You’re just saying that to make me feel better.”? If you do, you not only devalue yourself, but you cast off their gift as if it were worthless and at the very same time, imply they aren’t of much value to you either. Wow, who’d have thought being modest was such a bad thing to be?
Instead of turning away gifts like these let’s accept them gracefully and embrace them. Let’s also be generous in giving as well, for this is a wonderful opportunity to tell the other person what about them you admire and appreciate. Aside from that, if someone were to tell us that they love the way that dress looks on us, by gracefully accepting the compliment we feel better about ourselves.
In the movie and book The Secret, they talk about how the key to getting The Law of Attraction working in our favor is to feel good. When we bathe in the sunlight of another person’s admiration, we feel good. When we return the favor with glowing words of our own, we feel even better. Why not just form the habit of saying, “Thank you!” when someone praises you? You can even add interest to what they said by saying something like, “Wow, I really appreciate what you said, especially since I respect you and your opinion so much”.
These rules can extend to physical gifts someone offers you as well. Usually, before someone decides to give someone something, they put a great deal of thought into it. If we decline right off the bat, it might be perceived as a rejection of them, not just what they offered.
The thing we want to do is to put ourselves in the best of moods and when someone pays us a compliment, they’re helping us in that regard. Now do them one better and return the favor after you allow them to. Make sure what you say or do is based on genuine feelings and your own observation of their positive traits to gain the best results all around.
Question of the Day to Ask Ourselves
“How can I get better at accepting the gifts of others in a way that we both feel good?”
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